WORDS OF WISDOM
Putting Aside Anger
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Sat. August 26th, 2006
Today was an interesting day. I spoke to several people that were in some way angry at another person .It was like there was something in the air, even I had a moment of not being my usual cheerful self. So, I thought what a good topic for today.
ANGER:
1. A strong feeling of displeasure and usually of
antagonism
2. RAGE
- angerless /-l&s/ adjective
synonyms ANGER, IRE, RAGE, FURY, INDIGNATION, WRATH
mean an intense emotional state induced by displeasure. ANGER,
the most general term, names the reaction but in itself conveys nothing about
intensity or justification or manifestation of the emotional state
To put aside anger..
First - You think about the people in your life
that you love, that love you, and all the things you have in your life to be
grateful for.
Second, - You release your anger. Be grateful that
you are who you are, and in no way let someone else's behavior effect the core
of who you are.
Third, - Send the person who has either hurt,
disappointed, or angered you love and light, and hope for them to not live in
fear, and if nothing else that they will one day pay-forward the good things
that have been done for them.
Fourth - Do not give them anymore energy good , bad
or otherwise. You don't have room in your life for the negative. Anger, and
disappointment are things that eat at you , and in turn eventually manifest into
something else.
Fifth -Stop having expectations of others. The only
thing that you have control over is you, and as soon a you stop having
expectations of others, or expecting others to be different to make you happy.
You will actually be happy.
Happiness or Unhappiness are really just choices.
What do you really choose to be happy??????
Relationships
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Fri. October 6th, 2006
Relationships between men and women are a funny thing. There is no real handbook. Most of us learn how to be in a relationship from our Parents, Aunts, Uncles, friends and television. It's like having children is something that you really learn by doing.
Every situation is different. But, if
that is so why do we try to treat each situation the same? Why don't we try to
let go some of our luggage before bringing a new person into our lives, and
making them suffer the faults of another?
In every relationship the book is new, with new adventures and a new story to be
told. In life we have to always remember difference
is the key word.
But the fault most are guilty of is treating the person that we supposedly are
in love with like a possession, like something that we bought. Love is and honor
and a privilege. Not an obligation. So, why do we become jealous?? Why do we
want to change our partner???
Maybe if more people took the time to first learn who they are, and love
themselves more, and not looking outside of themselves for someone else to make
them happy. Then take another minute to figure out the kind of person they
really want to be with, understanding the qualities that
are really important to them.
Then maybe they could be in relationships that were real,
that brought something to their Already happy existence. Not one that keeps them saying constantly
if only he would......
if I could
just get her to.........
Loving or being in love with someone is just that. Loving not finding fault. If
you love someone really love someone you should only want them to be happy , as
they should want for you.
Is your relationship the one you really want??? Are you giving the best you can
give??
Love and Blessings,
Stacye
Be Yourself
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Wed. October 11th, 2006
Why is it that we allow others to have so much power over our feeling and lives???
We are born into this life alone. We take this journey of life alone with occasional companions and visitors,
and we die alone.
So, why do we act as though we need the
approval of someone who is not walking in our shoes, or may not really have our
best interest at heart?
We are all here making our own journeys with our own lessons to learn. True
those that are brought into our lives are there for a reason, and it is usually
the lesson, but they are neither our power nor our source.
The source is God; everything else is just a resource.
So why to we blame them for things that
we allowed them to do to us? With the accusations
"He did this to me" or "She wouldn't let me do
that".
The reality is we gave them that false
power. We accepted what was done to us or choose to deny something from
ourselves.
Yes, we all want companionship, friends, and lovers. But it should never be at
the cost of you.
If the people around you don't want the
same things or have the same interest then it might be time to focus on
having more like-minded people in your life.
It is a hard lesson that I had to learn. That I truly was the master of my
destiny, and I needed no ones approval to live the life I choose. It is easy to
blame someone else, but to truly claim my life I had to stand up and take
responsibility for myself.
I realized the life I wanted, and choose to claim it. I learned to keep things
to myself or only speak of things I wanted to do with people that I knew would
be supportive and positive.
Not those that had no faith.
I also looked at my life and realized that it was a bit cluttered, and I have a
belief that you can't have anything new if your closet is cluttered.
So, I cleaned the closet of my life. To
make way for the life I truly wanted to live.
Are you claiming you??????
Seeking Approval
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Thurs. October 12th, 2006
From childhood to adulthood there is
always going to be someone who's approval we'll seek. First our parents, then
friends, then mates, and employers. But the truth to this is you first need to
seek the approval from yourself. No one can truly approve of you if you don't
love and approve of yourself.
Our biggest fear is being alone. So, we tend to tolerate treatment that we
dislike because we don't want to be alone, without ever taking into account that
maybe if we removed the negative there would be room for the positive.
Remember when you were younger and your Mother told you "Animals can smell
fear". People can tell when you don't approve of yourself. So, if you don't
approve of you why should they approve of you? It is that lack of confidence
that Bully's pray upon, and to gain control they continue to work on that lack
of self-approval until you have none.
For a lot of us this becomes very apparent when we hit our early 20..s because
that is when people start to seek their identity. We change and we see our
friend's change, and that fear of them no longer being in our lives kicks in. We
never take in to account that there are a million more people out in the world
more like us, and what we want to become waiting to be apart of the next phase
of our journey.
There will always be someone who does not approve of us. For whatever the
reason.
It is important to remember as we better ourselves it is inevitable that we'll
loose a friend or two. There maybe people that will resent us because seeing us
change may serves as a reminder to them that they are not dealing with their own
life, but whatever it is,
it is their drama not yours.
We grow and we change. Through this some things will fit , and some won't.
Things that use to seem so comfortable will start to feel like they belong to someone else.
It is like the song "Everything Must Change". As we change there will be new people in our lives that fit better than the old, and over time some of them may start not to fit, and there will be new people to replace them.
It is the circle of life.
We must walk into our futures knowing that if we cheer for ourselves, soon
others will join in. Let us bless the world with the individuality that is our
own.
Are you your best cheerleader?????
Love and Blessings,
Stacye
Love, Loss, Live Again
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Fri. October 13th, 2006
This is a special day for me, and I care
to share a story.
I was in a relationship some years ago. I was very much in love. His life was
cut short by an act of nature. Today was his birthday. I always take a moment to
spend a bit of his birthday with him. To let him know I love him , to let him
know I miss him.
Many years have past since the day of his transition , but he is still very much
a part of who I am. At the time I couldn't imagine how I could go on. I couldn't
imagine that I would. But over time the wound has healed. I have loved again,
but he still holds a place in my heart. He was the first to teach me unconditional
love.
As I have said before
"if you really ever loved someone then you don't stop loving them".
Because everyone that has been in your
life (good or maybe not so) has had a part in you becoming who you are.
Because this person had a great deal to do with who I am I wanted to in my own
way say "Happy Birthday" to him by honoring his memory.
I know that some wonder do I expect other men to measure up too him? No, because
every person is different. But what I did learn is what love feels like , and
that I would never settle for a relationship that doesn't make me feel good,
bring me joy, make me laugh, or feel appreciated, and someone that I can not
make feel the same.
Have a great weekend!!!
Love and Blessings,
Stacye
Differences
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Fri. November 24th, 2006
Have you ever wondered why people feel
the need to convince you of something that you know isn't right for you or the
need for you to do things their way that doesn't fit your life at all?
I have always found our differences to be the most interesting thing about
people. Difference is what makes for good conversation. It is what makes the
world go round.
So, why is it that people try so hard to make you think, and act the way they
want you to?
There are those that consider themselves a loving people, yet they are not being
accepting of the ways of others. They will say or do whatever to push your
buttons, make you doubt yourself, or uncomfortable with your choices just to
sway you in their direction. If you are truly showing love to someone, then you
are accepting them for who they are. Accepting their thoughts, their beliefs,
and their actions.
But the truth is, if someone's difference is really an issue for someone else,
than maybe instead of trying to change him or her, that person should limit
interaction between them self, and the other person or not be around the other
at all.
We all have choices.
We never really have to be around, or talk to someone that doesn't fit how we live our life, or offends or hurts us mentally or physically.
Yes, there are those rare acceptions like work, but even in that situation a person can limit their dealings.
But the real question is would that
person trying so hard to make you what they want , want someone trying to change
them?
Do you enjoy differences????
Stacye
Highs and Lows
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Mon. November 27th, 2006
We all have moments when we are not as
happy as we would like to be. Those moments when we aren't sure if we can go on.
Those moments of depression are a natural part of life. Without them we would
never know what truly being happy is.
I have found that I can snap out of it better if I can figure out what is
causing the low. Once I figure out the cause I try to find the answer to
changing my mood. That sometimes can be easier said then done.
Since I know that emotions can be changed in second, and I choose not to be
unhappy, I have a couple of things that I have found work really well for me.
I read one of my books that motivate me.
I have a couple of happy memories that if I tap into seem to help me a lot.
I have my "All-Time Favorite's" song list on my IPod that I put on.
I watch a funny movie.
The point is that I know that I have the power to change my mood. I know that I
don't have to stay down, so I do my best to change the low to a high.
Are you controlling your Highs and Lows???
Stacye
Making New Roads
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Fri. December 1st, 2006
In life we seem to think there are rules.
There are actually guidelines. Things that might have worked for someone else,
but may not necessarily work for you.
I watch, as people get so frustrated with themselves because they aren't on
schedule or can't make their plans work. Trying so hard to live up to unreal
expectations. Expectations that lead to feelings of failure, that then lead to
feelings of depression.
The days of "Father Knows Best" have past. We now live in a time of Woman
in the office, Same Sex Marriages, Single-Parent Households,
Multicultural Adoptions, Stay At Home Father's, and lets not forget the
internet, so how can we think that we can follow those same old maps
without making a couple of new roads of our own?
Life is what you make it, not what someone told you it
had to be.
So, be easy on yourself. You are a
pioneer forging new territory. Yes, there are road maps to guide you, but every
now and then you have to make a new road, and claim new territory.
Are you claiming new territory???
Have an amazing weekend!!
Love and Blessings,
Stacye
Passions and Possessions
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Wed. December 06, 2006
A House
A Car
A Watch
A Ring
These are things that are bought. They are things that we own.
Love
The Heart
Feelings
Emotions
These are things that are felt, and shared.
It is an honor to be in a relationship.
It is a privilege to have someone to love and care about, who loves and cares about us.
Yet, we treat our relationships like something that we bought; like something that we own. We are selfish with them,
and we take them
for granted.
A person and their feelings are not possessions. We do not own the person we are
in a relationship with. We are sharing our lives, feelings, and an experience.
We must learn to show our relationships the honor and respect they
deserve.
We must remember we are dealing with another person, not homes, cars, watches or rings.
Just as we have feelings that we want
acknowledged, considered, and gently handled, so does the person or persons (keeping
it real) that we are in a relationship with.
Are your separating your passions and possessions ???
Love and Blessings,
Stacye
Repelling Negativity
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Fri. December 08, 2006
It doesn't matter where you come from or what you have been taught.
We've all been exposed to negative
thoughts and words. We have all had people in our lives that have said things to
or about us that were unflattering and hurtful.
People say things
because of their own self-doubt, self-hate, fears, and disappointments.
But that doesn't make what they say true or any less hurtful.
It just makes it their opinion.
If we know who we are it's easy to say, "It's that silly" to those
words that really have nothing to do with us.
You can't change what goes on in other people's minds, their actions, and their words.
But you can love yourself, love
them, and move on.
All that matters is how we feel about ourselves.
It's sometimes hard to bounce back after a blow.
But loving yourself and knowing who you
are is the greatest weapon you will ever have against negativity.
Is your weapon of love ready?????
Have a Wonderful Weekend!!!!
Love and Blessings in Divine Order
Stacye
Wanting To Be Loved
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Mon. December 11, 2006
Although different colors, shapes, and
sizes. We are one.
Different families and friends, we are one.
Although we all come from different families, friends, and backgrounds, we share
a lot.
We all have jobs families, friends, partners, children, and parents.
We all need and want to be loved, so why do we act like it doesn't matter?
Why do we find it so hard to express our feelings?
Why to we choose to put up our wall instead of showing our vulnerably?
Why do we block the blessings?
I have always worn my heart on my sleeve.
I have always tried to listen to my heart. In my music I am able to share my love and experiences. (Yes, I write from the heart).
I listen to people talk about what they
desire in their lives, yet nothing in their actions reflects what they claim to
desire.
There is that old saying "closed mouths don't get fed". So, I always
speak up.
I realize that if I hide behind the wall
then how will what I want find me, an how will I see it when it comes?
Throughout my life I have always been open. Maybe too open.
There were times when I might have cared more for someone than they cared for me.
I would wonder why someone wouldn't want what I wanted, but it didn't make me care about them less.
Because I did care for them I could wish them well, and hope for them to find what it was they were looking for.
There is never a reason to stay somewhere
that isn't right for you.
With all the people in world it is always important to
keep in mind that there is always someone out there who is just right for us.
Someone who wants and need the same things that we do.
Patience is important, but more important
is the knowing what we desire, and having the faith that we can have it.
Are you open to what you say you desire???
Love and Blessings in Divine order,
Stacye
Real Women
By Mista Guiliano
It takes a real woman
To understand her man’s needs, to console him when he’s in despair, to rely on his strength when she is weak and to see the potential that he doesn’t see in himself.
Real women
Don’t exist in the minds of simple men, for they cannot conjure up a vision so rare, so exquisite and so true.
Her beauty is self evident; it overflows in her confidence, in her abilities to overcome obstacles that would vanquish a mere mortal.
She is truth and hope, light and wisdom gained throughout time.
Real women
Are the frame work for things possible and dreams fulfilled, her absence would leave chaos at our doors creeping in, to give havoc to what was once peace.
Real women
Have substance and grace, her demeanor captivates and invites admiration.
RGP © 2006
Getting Through The Holidays
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Wed. December 13, 2006
I can really relate to this one Stacye.....(p.c.)
The holidays are an interesting time .
For some it is a time of joy and sharing,
But for others it is a time of sadness and loneliness.
It is important that we keep those in mind that there are some people in our lives that have no family to share the holidays with.
We have to remember to keep those people
in mind by sending cards, making phone calls , and inviting them to festivities.
We are not all fortunate to have family and a close friend, and sometime
too proud and embarrassed to say we need to be apart of something.
So, in the spirit of giving we should all
take a look around us to the people in our lives and see if we're needed.
It is so easy to think about what is obvious the homeless and under privileged,
but let us not forget those in need closer to home.
Is there someone that you can help get through the Holidays????
Stacye
Holding On To The Good
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Fri. December 15, 2006
The only thing that we can truly do is take life one day, one hour, one minute, one second at a time.
That is all any of us can really do.
We all suffer losses, have fears, and experience hurt.
But in each minute we can move closer to our strength, to feeling better because
in each moment we
move further away from our past.
We all have good days, and some that are not so easy, but if we stay the course
the good will be better, and the not so easy will get easier.
It is important to hold on to what is good.
It is important to focus on the things
that matter to us, the things that make us happy, the things that bring us joy,
because those are the things that help us through the hard times.
During this holiday season for some, when moments seem hard
Remember
And hold on with what was, and is good in your life no matter how small.
It will be those
good thoughts that get you through any difficult time.
Are you holding on to your good???
Love and blessings in Divine order
Stacye
I Am a Tree
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Tue. December 26th, 2006
I am young and fragile, but I know with
nourishment (love, kindness, and compassion)
I will grow big, tall and strong.
It is important that as I grow I am protected from the elements. (Hate, fear,
and danger) so that my growth is not stalled in anyway.
I know I am growing in every second, every minute, in every hour of every day.
Even though I cannot see it, I know I am always growing.
As I grow I will be ever changing. (Appearance, weight, emotionally,
spiritually)
I will lose some of my leaves (family, friends, habits) that will be replaced by
new leaves.
I will be ever changing and growing into the beautiful tree that has been
planted, nourished, and loved by God.
Are you loving the tree that you are ???
Stacye
Walking The Road In Faith
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Mon. January 08, 2007
Do you ever walk away from a situation and wish you had said something? Wondering why you didn't say what was in your heart or mind?
Wondering what you were so afraid of?
We are all afraid of rejection. It is probably the most common fear we all
share.
The feeling of being wrong , not good enough, or maybe we were too prideful. But
if for a moment we stopped to think if we had just open our mouth how that
moment might have changed our lives , salvaged a relationship, or got us a job?
We all want good for ourselves, and usually the only thing stopping us is a fear
of the unknown. When we drive down a road that we have never been on we have
faith that we are going to safely end up where we are suppose to be.
We should fearlessly walk through our lives the same way.
We don't always have to know the outcome,
we only have to believe that we will be okay, and end up exactly where we should
be.
Are you walking the road in faith???
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye
Falling In
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Thurs. January 18, 2007
I know more people unhappy with the relationship they are in than happy.
So, it made me wonder why.
I realize that part of it is the lack of people knowing themselves, the fear of being alone, the lack of knowing what was important to them in a relationship.
Plain and simple
the lack of true compatibility.
It is easy to fall into a relationship without knowing why you're there.
You go on one, two, three or four dates, and before you know it....... you're in a relationship .
Then you start to notice that you aren't feeling that thing that you've heard about , those things that people in love feel,
but then you don't know if you ever have.....
and you start to think well this is it.
This is all that a relationship must
be... two people together. The Bells and Whistles must only be in the movies.
What if people stop to think "Maybe if I didn't
dislike being alone so much". "Maybe if I
made a list of what was important to me in a
relationship". "What if I knew exactly
who I was, and what I wanted and need in a relationship".
Maybe just maybe I could find the right
person for me.
For some, the situations they are in are not easy to fix or end, but for those
who are looking maybe if they were to stop and figure these things out before
things go too far there would be a few more happy relationships.
Do you know what you have fallen into ???
Love and Blessings in divine order,
Stacye
What Is " Being In
Love" ?
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Mon. January 22, 2007
"In Love" - What a strange term
or description of a feeling for or towards another person.
When do we know when we love someone or are in love with someone?
For me, being in love is about the butterflies felt when that person
is near, the tingle from their touch, and the weakness from their kiss. It is
the thinking of them constantly throughout the day. Their smell, their
touch, and that smile that out of nowhere crosses your face when you think
about that special person.
But I think the most important thing is
that you can't imagine living without them, nor do you want to.
I find it interesting how people so easily claim to be
"In Love" , but yet can hurt or leave the other person so easily.
I love and care about everyone. I wish only the best for people weather they are in my life or not.
But those feelings are very different from those feelings for that special person in your life.....
and that feeling of being "In
Love" is not something felt often or with many.
We are all guilty of falling into relationships, that we stay in ,
we try to make them work , we believe they are the best we can do or have.
Some people may never have or even believe that those feeling of being
"In Love" exist.
Many think that those unbelievable feelings you get when you are truly "In Love" can only happen in the movies.
Believe me those
feelings do exist , and that feeling of being "In Love" is so worth
waiting for.
Are you loving
or
in love with someone???
Stacye
When To Let Go
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Fri. January 26, 2007
Why do we hold on so tightly to things when they no longer seem to work??
Many times we are in relationships that no longer work for us. We wake up one day and realize that the relationship no longer fits our life or our path for a variety of reasons.
Maybe we no longer want to same thing as our partner, our partner has changed, or cheated.
So, why does it become so hard to let
go?? Is it love? is it fear? Or could it be low self-esteem on our part???
Plan and simple . "Everything must change, nothing
stays the same".
No truer words have been spoken.
If your relationship no longer works, it could just mean that the relationship has run it's course. Maybe you have both gotten from the relationship what you needed, and it is time for you both to move on to the next lesson of your life, or maybe you weren't meant to be together in the first place.
But, whatever the reason there is never a good reason to be anywhere where you're unhappy,
and you can't make someone else be want
you want them to be.
We are in a society that has taught us that we stay in our homes , in our
relationship, and in our jobs until the day we die. Sometimes that works ,
but sometimes it doesn't , and that is okay.
It doesn't mean you have failed if you
can't make things work, it just means it's time for change. Because what life
really is meant to be is Happy.
Are you holding on for the wrong reasons????
Have an amazing weekend!!!
Love and Blessings in divine order ,
Stacye
Song of the day: "Kiss and Say Goodbye"– The Manhattans
Worth Staying The Road
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Mon. January 29, 2007
Why is it so easy to walk away from what we say we love?
Why do we let pride get in the way of
what we say we desire to only be unhappy with the choice that we have made?
In the past, I have walked away from a relationship because of my
pride, and occasionally with too many friends or my up-bringing in my ears
to only look back and want to kick myself for not trying harder, and not
fighting for what mattered to me.
Then I realized what was going on in the relationship wasn't bothering me, but people who weren't in the relationship.
People constantly
giving an opinion base upon their upbringing , and negative experiences.
We live in a different time. This is not the time of "Father Knows
Best".
Men and women have very different roles
in the world, and relationships are no longer simple to define. What worked year
ago doesn't necessarily work today, and it is important that we adjust.
We all fall victim to, looking for answers.
We ask our friends and family the important questions instead of asking ourselves or the person we are in the relationship with.
If you are grown enough to be in a relationship, then you should be grown enough to say what you need to say, and ask the questions you need to ask without fear.
Two important things to remember -
1. You shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone that you are afraid to talk to.
2. No one
can have a opinion about your relationship, but you and the person that your are
in it with.
The greatest moment in my life was the day I realized what was really important
to me, and I chose to take responsibility for my life, my mistakes,
and my heart.
I was willing to stand up for want I wanted no matter what the outcome, because, I couldn't go through my life wondering what if.
I stood up for what I wanted and the
outcome was more amazing than I could have expected. From that moment on I have
fearlessly moved forward never looking back, and never
being afraid to express my feelings.
Our dreams, our desires, our loves are all worth staying the road.
Are you on your road??
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye
Song of The day : "A Love Of Your Own" - Average White Band
Doing Your Best
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Tue. January 30, 2007
When we start our relationships we
usually let our representative start it out for us. The kind , thoughtful,
considerate, fit , clean, and well mannered individual that our mothers raised ,
but for some reason, he or she isn't with us as often as they should be.
As time goes by, our representative leaves the building, and we show up to the
party.
Not quite as thoughtful, considerate, or as fit and clean as we started out.
Then we start to take our relationship for granted.
It starts out with little things that
seem to grow over time. Then one day we look up and we aren't happy in that
relationship anymore, and we don't know what went wrong.
Of course the first thing we do is find fault with our
partner.
There is a list of complaints too long to mention, but I always find it funny how no one ever stops and says
"I know what I have done wrong, and I want to fix it".
It takes two to tangle, but we have to
remember for every action, there is a reaction.
For any relationship to truly be successful you have to first love yourself,
before you can love someone else.
But, you also have to take responsibility for who you are, and what you bring to the table.
There are some couples that really aren't meant to be together,
but for the ones that are with a little
work, what use to be good can be again.
As the old say goes
"How you catch um , is how you keep
um".
Are you doing your best???
Love and Blessings in divine order,
Stacye
Song of the day: "Is It Still Good To Ya" – Ashford and Simpson
We Need Each Other
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Wed. February 14th, 2007
Although we are born alone, and in most cases we die alone the real truth is that we need each others to live.
Every person has a purpose,
something that they bring to the table.
The thing that we need most from each other is love.
Love, Understanding, Companionship, Communication, Attention, and Affection.
We can act like we can get by without it,
but again we need each other, some more than others, for one reason or another.
So, with that said why don't we honor our relationships more?
Why do we take them for granted?
For that matter, why do we take for
granted the person bagging our groceries, or the waitress serving our food -
people we need? Remember we all make this planet work in our own way.
I hear people talking about what they want, but what is it
that they give?
I know what I need in my relationships, and for that reason I try to give the same, as well as being
conscience of the needs of others.
I try to surround myself with like-minded people, especially my partner.
I know that I must communicate my needs, and I want them to communicate their needs to me.
I want to do my best to make them happy, as I hope they want to do the same for me.
As they say, "closed mouths don't
get fed", and
I make sure I am never hungry.
So, speak up, and take action.
If you know you are affectionate, don't keep trying to be with someone who can't stand to touch you.
(Especially in public)
If you like adventure, then you and a Couch Potato are probably going to have a few issues .
This is not to say that you must give up on your relationship, but you need to be in the right situation.
Why be unhappy
And it is unfair to want anyone to change for you.
Love is accepting someone for who they are.
There is someone out there who likes to touch, and do all the things you like to do.
There are over 6 Billion people in the
world which means 10% of them are just right for you.
If the two of you use to like the same thing
then it is time to communicate. and find out how to get it back.
We weren't meant to be alone.
We need each other.
Love and Blessings in divine order,
Stacye
Song on the day: "We Both Need Each Other" - Norman Connors
Gossip
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Mon. February 19th, 2007
Someone talking about someone else usually in an unflattering light, because they have no business of their own to talk about.
The funny thing is that the only people that ever know what is going on in any situation are the people involved. Which mean there are always two or more stories, and unless you were there it isn't your story to tell.
You never know how much your words can
effect or hurt another persons life.
As we have all heard before "Do onto others as you
would have done on to you."
There are so many more positive and uplifting things we could be spreading. Like
a compliment or an encouraging word. Before we begin to speak on others
especially in the negative we should stop and think of something more positive
we could be spreading instead , like love.
What are you Spreading???
Love and blessings on divine order,
Stacye
The Benefits Of Illness
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Fri. March 16, 2007
Illness is a very interesting part of our journey.
Most of us hold it in a negative place, giving it more energy to grow from. We judge those around us by what they do or don't do when we are as we say "down".
Some raise to the occasion in the way we want them to and other's don't.
What illness or disease are is a times of
reflection. Because it is about what is in you,
not about what is outside of you. How you live your life. How you treat
yourself, and how you allow other's to treat you.
Illness is an interesting time for both us and those around us.
It is the time when you see who is there, and in what way they are going to show up.
We hold others in such high expectation. What you have to look at is are our needs being met?
Was there someone there for us?
What did we really get out of our
illness??
There is a wonderful book by Louise Hay called "You
Can Heal Your Life" that discusses our illnesses, and how the
things in our lives relate to them.
Like most other things we always look
outside ourselves, but this is the one situation that we
really can't look anywhere else but in ourselves.
Life is a series of hills and valleys.
There is always a lesson in the valley.
When we can understand the lesson, grow from the lesson and give thanks for the lesson.
Then we can
move on our journey up the hill experiencing life until it is time for another
valley.
Are you giving thanks for your valleys and lessons???
Have a wonderful Weekend!!!!!
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye
Through The Fire
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Mon. March 19, 2007
There are times in our lives that we
can't imagine how or if we are going to make it, and the doors that we thought
will be open to us with help, support , and encouragement are closed. The pain,
the stress, the heart break can take their toll, and that the light that we have
here is at the end of the tunnel seems like an old wives tale.
It is in that lowest of times that we must hold on to our faith, and our belief
that the experience that we are having is just that, an experience.
It is not who we are or how we will continue to be it is a moment in time for us to grow from.
It is in that time that we must continue
to find things in our lives to be grateful for and the faith to move through the
fire.
Just when we think we can take no more our lives or circumstances can turn
around in a moment with one action , a conversation, or......
a phone call.
So, when things seem impossible know that they aren't. It is ok to have a sad or angry moment, we're only human.....But
We
know that we will make it through the fire.
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye
If You Have Ever Loved
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Fri. March 23, 2007
It's funny how people throw the words "I love you" around so casually, and can neglect or walk away from a relationship so easy.
Although we should love one another being in love is a very different thing.
Being in love is a very strong emotion.
An emotion that you don't get over, over night. If you have ever really loved
someone you know this to be true.
Relationships come and they go for different reason.
Sometime we can
love someone so much, but know that our relationship with them isn't healthy for
one or both of us, or maybe the timing isn't good, or the relationship has just
run it's course.
If we have ever really been in love with anyone we know that we never stop
loving him or her.
At first we feel as though we can't make
it without them, but with each day the pain begins to fade, and we can begin to
see the light at the end of the tunnel. We realize that we are going to make it,
and one day we will have the privilege to love again.
In the meantime,
We have to be grateful for those
valuable experiences because they are the lessons that help to learn who we are
and what we really want, and it is gratitude that helps to bring on the change
to help us move forward. Being grateful for our past, and our present helps to
make for an incredible future.
Have a wonderful weekend!!!!
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye
In The Meantime
When I look in the mirror...I see my best friend.
In this life, we will never really be alone.
Because why.......We first have, God
And second........Ourselves.
To God, and my heavenly angel ALICE CARR watching over me.
Thank you for giving me SUPREME STRENGTH and showing me what I could handle......
"in the meantime"....
I
What Is True Love?
Only if it's...... REAL
"TRUE LOVE DOES NOT DEMAND FIDELITY......EVER"
Heaven Sent Me A Sign
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Fri. March 30, 2007
As many of you know I recently had back surgery.
But what you don't know is that it was my third in a year and a half. After my surgery my Doctor told me that I would have several limitations, and had to be very careful to not re-injure myself.
Now normally I wouldn't pay that much
attention because I never let anyone put limits on me, but since I had
re-injured myself a few months ago I took this warning to heart. The bad thing
was to take this to heart meant that I was going to have to totally change my
way of life.
For the first time in my life I had felt lost, and allowed the situation to get
me down.
Not a place I like to be nor a place I visit often, and then......
heaven sent me a sign.
I spent without thought, a couple of days doing something they said I shouldn't and couldn't do. It was something that I had to take care of, and there was no option.
Then it occurred to me that after a
couple of days I was without pain, and the doctors were wrong.
I remember how strong I have always been in my life,
and knew in that pain free moment that everything was going to be ok, and
although I would need to be careful I could get on with living my life.
Most importantly I remembered that the
only person putting limitation on me really was myself. Within a second I saw my
whole life turn around, and within 24 hours I saw it turn around even more.
It is easy for someone to tell you (especially Doctors)
what is good or bad for you. But, it is only you that can know what you are
capable of.
Are you allowing others to limit you????
Have a wonderful and safe weekend!!!!
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye
Song of the day : "Just When" - Vicky Winans
Silver Lining
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Mon. April 02, 2007
I very recently went through a situation where a friend didn't keep their word to me.
The situation was something of importance, and had a big impact on my life.
What was interesting was another friend
of mine got so angry over the situation. She couldn't believe that the
other friend would let me down.
The funny thing is that I wasn't and am not
angry.
I know that everything happens for a reason, but more so I can see the blessings and positive life benefits that came out of the situation.
I was able to call the friend that didn't come through and say thank you because I could see the benefits in what they had done .
When I explained this to my other
friend she clamed down, and she could see my point of view.
What I find interesting is how we have such high expectations for others, and
how angry we get when people don't do what we want or expect them to do.
When the reality is everyone has the right to do what works for them even when it doesn't work for us.
There is a moment when we have to stop and realize that whatever happens is really part of our life lesson, part of our journey.
We have to find the silver lining on the
cloud.
Are you looking for The Silver Lining???
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye
Song of the day: " I'll Be There For You " - R. Kelly
Leaving The Past Behind
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Wed. April 04, 2007
The Past In the Past
1. gone by or elapsed in time: It was a bad time, but it's
all past now.
2. having existed in, or having occurred during a time
previous to the present; bygone:
3. gone by just before the present time; just passed:
during the past year.
In the past we all have memories some good, and some not
so pleasant, but it is our past that has made us
who we are.
Along that road there were forks or choices.
You could have chosen to have better than
the situation you were in or you choose to believe that was all you deserved.
But, that choice was yours to make, not your parents, your teachers, your
siblings, or your friends, but "YOURS".
Every minute is another minute to start anew.
With faith any and everything is
possible. If it is a new life you choose or more of the old you can have it , if
you desire it.
We can all tell stories of unfortunate things that happened in our childhoods.
Some have continued to be victims, and some have chosen to have better.
No matter which life we are living we all
have some change/improvement that we want to make.
So let today be that new day.
Let today be the first day of the rest our lives.
Let us write down what we truly desire, and focus only on that. No list is too long or too short. Nothing is out of reach. Because nothing is impossible.
What was, was, and all that matters is what lies ahead .
Let us move forward to the new and wonderful life that we all deserve and choose to have.
Patience and focus are important. Know
that just because you can't see it doesn't mean it isn't happening, but know
that the change is inevitable if you believe the life you
desire is possible.
You ask how do I know because I live the life I choose.
I don't speak of my past, but it was no
different or challenging than some of yours, and I chose to change my story, I
chose to believe I could have a better life.
The past no longer needs to be spoken of because it has
well - passed. ?
What is the amazing life you choose??????
Song of The day: "Beautiful, Loved and Blessed" - Tamar Davis – CD
"Prince 3121"
Cutting The Golden Cord
Sit comfortably, with eyes closed, until you are in a relaxed state of mind.
Then picture the people or possessions you wish to release; and picture a golden cord which connects you.
Once you have this clearly in your mind, imagine a giant pair of golden scissors.
Take these scissors and simply cut through the golden cord. Cut all the way through, see the cord severed; then sit back and watch the people or possessions drifting free from you.
Now this is a very important moment; you must not try to hold onto them now.
You must set them free!!
Let them drift away, getting smaller and smaller until they are completely out of sight.
Just let them go!!
Once they are gone, sit there quietly for a moment, alone.
Feel what it is like to be free. No demands, no expectations, nothing.
How does it feel?
Now do you want them back, some part of them back?
You'll know a lot more clearly now that they're out of sight, which ones you miss the most.
Make your choices; then open your eyes and move towards the life you desire.
The Past is over; stop trying to change it.
The Future offers you as many choices as you're willing to see. Don't box yourself in to a past experience or current expectations.
Be open to new things.
Understand that problems are just difficult moments to get through; and.........
they don't stop you unless you attach yourself to them.
Go to the mirror, look yourself straight in the eye and say
"You're off the hook"
Let It Go
by T.D. Jakes
There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this!
When people can walk away from you:
LET THEM WALK!!!
I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you.
I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you
LET THEM WALK!!!
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.
The Bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.
LET THEM GO!!!
And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over.
And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.
You've got to know when it's dead. You've got to know when it's over.
Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye.
It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have
He'll give it to me.
And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it.
Stop begging people to stay.
LET THEM GO!!!
If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to ..
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains...
LET IT GO!!!
If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth...
LET IT GO!!!
If someone has angered you ...
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge ..
LET IT GO!!!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction ...
LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents ...
LET IT GO!!!
If you have a bad attitude...
LET IT GO!!!
If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better...
LET IT GO!!!
If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him..
LET IT GO!!!
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship....
LET IT GO!!!
If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves...
LET IT GO!!!
If you're feeling depressed and stressed ....
LET IT GO!!!
If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to...
LET IT GO!!!
Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing for 2007!!!
LET IT GO!!!
Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then
LET IT GO!!!
Holding On Or Letting Go
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Mon. April 16, 2007
Forgiveness is a funny thing.
Today I had some calls to make. There were a few people that I needed to call that in the past had wronged me.
Because of pride and principle I have over the years avoided these people.
But, the reality is that these are people in some way or another I would need to be in contact with.
As I made these calls, I remembered
that every situation is one that we can learn from and my situations with these
people was no different.
There is nothing saying that I have to be best friends with these people, but we
in one way or another need and can help each other.
What I learned is that in the past these people showed me who they are as I showed them who I am.
There was a lesson there for both parties.
I will take what I have learned and use
the knowledge to be smarter in my own dealings, I will just hope
that they will be kinder in theirs.
There is never any need to hold on to anger or ill feelings.
Those feeling only eat at us, and
really only hurt us in the long run. It is about finding the lessons in any
experience, and using those lessons to grow.
Are you holding on or forgiving???
Song of the day : "Give Me The Reason" - Luther Vandross
I've
got a fever.....and the only cure is
More
Cowbell!
Never EVER get on the road to nowhere.......... you know THAT road?......That road to nowhere?
(Albert Brooks)
A
The Door Is Cracked
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Fri. June 01, 2007
We've all been in situations where a relationship hasn't yet had closure.
A relationship where there is still love, but you don't know how things got so bad to where you are mistreating each other or that you started taking each other for granted.
We know that if changes were made on one
or both parts the relationship could possibly be salvaged, but we also know that
any changes that a person is going to make they have to want to make on their
own.
I always wonder is it fear or lack of interest that makes us hurt the one's that
we claim to love. We all say we want love, someone to be there for us, and
someone we know we can count on. Yet, so many of us run from just that or better
yet never give what we so desperately want or need.
I've been in these situations and have witnessed these situations. It is an
unfortunate cycle that some never break. The unfortunate thing is that we have
to lose a relationship without ever being able to regain it before we wake up
and see our mistakes.
So, what if while in or while in between relationships we take the time to figure out what we want, and what we're so afraid of in relationships so that we can start to make new and better patterns and stop repeating our mistakes.
Because at the
end of the day when we look back on our lives we want to look back at happy
memories not a pile of regrets.
Is there a relationship you can fix and if so do you know how?
Have an incredible weekend!!!
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye
Song of the day: "Don't Take Me For Granted" - Atlantic Starr
Sometimes, people come to a moment and they think they found that one last chance to be someone else.
And they go for it.
When it doesn't work out, they spend the rest of their lives looking back over their shoulder at what might have been.
The Hypocrite
By my friend STACYE BRANCHE
Sat. June 16, 2007
We all know them, and on occasion we have been or have been accused of being a hypocrite.
The person that says one thing and then
does something else.
I witness someone this week that professed to be something, yet his or her
action told a very different story.
It made me wonder why they felt the need to build up this unrealistic image of themselves. I think that in their mind they thought it would make them sound better or maybe it was who they really wanted to be. But, when they showed their true colors and I was able to see who they were.
Instead of being angry with them
and feeling lied to, I gave thanks because I was able to see clearly whom
I was dealing with and handle the situation accordingly.
It's unfortunate that there is something in some of us that makes us so insecure
or fearful that we can't stand up for who we are and the things that we believe
in as well as making us feel that we have to say what we think people want to
hear.
It is very easy to go with the crowed and
do what is popular, but much more difficult to stand as an individual.
Are you walking your walk or just talking???
Have an amazing weekend!!!
Love and blessings in divine order,
Stacye
Song of the day: " Lies" - EnVogue
21
WORDS
ONE.
Give
people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO.
Marry
a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills
will be as important as any other.
THREE.
Don't
believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR.
When
you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE.
When
you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX.
Be
engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN.
Believe
in love at first sight.
EIGHT.
Never
laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
NINE.
Love
deeply and passionately. You might get hurt,
but it's the only way to live life
completely.
TEN.
In
disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN.
Don't
judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE.
Talk
slowly, but think quickly.
THIRTEEN.
When
someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why
do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN.
Remember
that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
FIFTEEN.
Say
"bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN.
When
you lose, don't lose the lesson
!
SEVENTEEN.
Remember
the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all
your actions.
EIGHTEEN.
Don't
let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN .
When
you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
TWENTY.
Smile
when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
TWENTY-ONE.
Spend some time alone.
